Last week on #powerfultuesday which is an empowering quote I share on every Tuesday on instagram ( which I hope your following me on…..smile) I shared this quote you see in the picture. If they don’t respect your boundaries they don’t respect you. It got a favorable response from people with a lot of comments and likes. i think that it hit a nerve that many have been dealing with in their relationships and situations. We are filled with so much information about what boundaries are and what they are not. I want to give you my feelings and observations about the importance of them.
There are three points I made on my periscope about this subject (shameless plug I periscope every Tuesday 10:00 – 10:15 PM every Tuesday) On it I shared three power principles that I would like to share with you.
First lets define what a boundary is. Boundaries are a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line. It is a limit of a subject or sphere of activity. One of the best persons I think that speaks on this is Dr. Henry Cloud and he says about boundaries “Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins.”
These are the three points I made on Tuesday:
1)Communicate what your boundaries are
One of my favorite authors says that “communication kills assumption” and many times our boundaries are violated because we have not clearly communicated what they are and how we want to be treated. It makes a clear dividing line for what is and isnt acceptable in your space.
2) Don’ Be Afraid to Walk Away
Many times we stay in situations that are toxic and dysfunctional way too long. It is challenging to deal with cutting ties especially if it means people you have had in your life for a long time. Understand boundaries are not about getting people to change but making sure that you change and are in healthy relationships that honor and respect who you are.
3) Never Feel Guilty For Setting a Boundary
Guilt can haunt you if you are not careful. Especially if you have not been setting boundaries before. It is a new practice and something you’re not use to doing. Give yourself permission to do whats best for you and your well-being. It may be uncomfortable but it will work out in the end.
I hope these power points help you as you journey through life.